Friday, January 18, 2019
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Rebecca was at her wit’s end.  Her relationship with her 17-year old son, Michael, was becoming stranger and stranger.  What had happened to him? Michael had recently become reclusive and silent at home.  He would come and go rather like a ghost.  He would leave early in the morning hardly saying goodbye and then return home after his after-school activities much the same.  If he could get away with it, he would come in the door and walk through the house without saying the word, then go to his room and close the door.  Rebecca was getting more and more frustrated.  She felt so disconnected... (Read More ...)

Relationship Problems: Are you Hoping He’ll Change? Are you frustrated with your significant other?  Have you been together so long that you know exactly what they’re going to say and how they’re going to react? Has the thrill that used to be in your relationship been replaced with the doldrums? And is your answer to all your relationship problems that you’re HOPING HE’LL CHANGE? Are you ready to take an honest look at what’s going on in the relationship that you call the most important one in your life? It’s all too easy to look outside yourself and, with your... (Read More ...)

With the speed that you’re operating at in today’s world, racing from one thing to the next, hardly catching your breath, it’s rare to experience this wonderful thing called appreciation. You’re so focused on getting the job done, completing tasks, getting the kids to the next activity, and checking items off your to-do list.  And you’re rushing through it all. However, you’re losing a certain quality in life–and that is appreciating those you love and care about. And imagine not only experiencing life that way, but also expressing your appreciation out loud! There’s... (Read More ...)

Tracy was near the end of her rope. At work everything was going really great—her business was thriving and now there was interest from an investor in buying it.  But at home, she was feeling nothing but pressure. This was the last thing she needed right now. Tracy had been married for almost 20 years, and for most of that time, their relationship had been going really well.  She could hardly remember what life was like before meeting him. For some reason recently he had been acting stranger and stranger—not at all like himself. For the life of her she couldn’t understand where his... (Read More ...)

Have you ever thought about doing something for someone, then changed your mind, saying to yourself, “What difference will that make?” In other words, you talked yourself out of it and squished your great idea! It can be so tempting to keep playing it safe, to stay in your comfort zone when contributing to another.  When you do this, you avoid seeing and truly experiencing the HUGE difference you make! Avoidance in life isn’t the most effective strategy.  It’s like living life on hold, keeping it status quo and even keel — in other words mediocre.  However if you’re... (Read More ...)

Here is the last article in this relationship series, and the answer to Where Do Relationship Problems Start? Pt.2 And now here’s the final ‘episode’: How Can You Solve Relationship Problems? Pt. 2 6.  Being focused more on yourself How to solve this issue is to learn how to put the other ahead of yourself and then be willing to operate this way more often than not.  That doesn’t mean becoming superhuman and never being “selfish.”  However, when you’re able to put the other person first, and learn what it means to truly serve them and contribute to their well-being,... (Read More ...)

Elaine was so hard on herself.  In fact, no one could be harder on her than she was. The strange thing was that she wasn’t like this with anyone else.  Elaine was really great with her employees.  She was careful to give words of appreciation and acknowledge them for even the smallest thing that they did for her. Elaine was equally generous with her friends.  Since she was so good to others, she had gathered around herself many great friends over the years, and they just loved her. She truly sucked the joy out of her life! Elaine was completely confused as to why life felt so hard and... (Read More ...)

We started the relationship series with “Where Do Relationship Problems Start?  Pt.1“ which covered the first five most common causes of relationship problems. Let’s now focus on the solutions. As you’ve probably experienced, it’s all too easy to slip into problems, but how to get yourself out of them is the challenge. In fact, the burning question is: “Is it even possible?!” The answer is: YES! it’s always possible to solve relationship problems—even if they’ve been going on for some time! Yes, always, so long as certain key elements are at play: You... (Read More ...)

Barbara was at her wit’s end.   She had created her business because she had a real passion for it. Now, all these years later, she had a team of twenty-five employees – and she couldn’t get anything done.  Every day they would come to her with problems and complaints.  She had no idea how to handle it.  How did it get this bad? She was starting to hate her life. Barbara had no idea how to use effective communication, so instead she was hiding out in her office to avoid dealing with them.  There were even days where she found herself staying away from the office just to be able... (Read More ...)

How do you handle it when people say wonderful things to you? Often, you’re so ready with the next thing that you have to say, that you’ll speed right by and BARELY NOTICE the wonderful words of appreciation that someone has just given you! Or, you simply brush it off and hardly give those beautiful words a nod before hurrying forward. The more extreme version of this is to just DISMISS what the other says to you!  Let’s say you’re being acknowledged for some special skill that you have, or some amazing thing that you did for somebody, and you dismiss it by saying, “Well,... (Read More ...)