How Can Words of Appreciation Have Impact? 

words of appreciationWhen you’re communicating, what is your primary goal?  Surely it is to have impact. 

When you speak, is it just about the words you say?  What does it take for them to have impact?   

This is especially important when it comes to words of appreciation.  Because when you’re expressing gratitude, appreciation, and acknowledgement you want it to be heard and to mean something to the person you’re saying it to. 

So let’s take a closer look at what methods you’re using to communicate:  

1.  Relying on psychic ability

This is the most common and at the same time most challenging! 

Have you noticed when you don’t quite know how to express what it is you want to say, or it feels awkward, or you feel embarrassed, you rely on someone picking up on what you’re thinking psychically?  In other words, you’re not saying anything out loud and hoping that the other person gets it.   This completely relies on the other person to tune in to you and pick up on your appreciation of them. 

You may have noticed that this method doesn’t usually work so well!   

2.  E-mail

This is quick and efficient, but not ideal.  It’s definitely an improvement over relying on psychic ability.  However, there’s no tone in e-mail, and therefore it’s easy to misconstrue what is being said, especially with sensitive issues.  So with this method, it’s really important for you to inject your communication with energy and feeling.  That said, you won’t know how it’s being received by e-mail unless and until you hear back from that person.

4.  Handwritten Note

If you want to send a message of appreciation, a handwritten note will go a long way.  This is a dying art.  So few people still send handwritten notes nowadays.  There’s nothing quite like knowing that someone actually took the time to put pen to paper to express themselves in this special way.  

Although handwritten notes are more common when thanking a friend or acquaintance in a more personal way, sending your authentic and sincere words of appreciation to a new client you’re delighted to be working with, or an end of the year note to a valued vendor, or to a colleague who helped you close a big deal, will most definitely help you deepen the relationship just by this simple act.

It might take a bit more effort, but it’s well worth it. 

4.  By Phone

This is another step-up in communication from relying on psychic ability and e-mail.  There are three scenarios that happen when you pick up the phone to express your words of appreciation

The first is when you get their voicemail and don’t leave a message.  In other words, you call and don’t reach them directly.  Then you hang up without leaving a message, either because you don’t want to bother them, you feel self-conscious, or you think to yourself, “It’s okay. They know how I feel.”  This takes us right back to number one which is relying on their psychic ability to know that you called and pick up on what you wanted to say! 

The second is when you leave a message.  Now this can be great as busy as everybody is these days.  When you’re leaving a message, make it wonderful.  Have it be warm and heartfelt and authentically you.  Don’t hold back.  Really say what you would say if they were right there in front of you.

The third is when they answer the phone and you’re talking with them live.  Resist the temptation to take a world tour, to go all over the place and not get to the point.  Tell them why you’re calling.  Be specific.  For example, thank them for being such a great friend to you; or for what they did for you that made such a difference; or for how they were there for you in an important moment in your life.  Really express what you mean and take their breath away. 

5. Face to Face

Of course, this is the best of all for true impact.  When you’re right there with the other person, looking them in the eyes.  You can see, hear, and ‘feel’ each other, so you will be engaging all the senses.  When you’re expressing your gratitude and appreciation, make sure they receive the full force of your words. 

How can words of appreciation have impact?

Have you noticed that, when people are being acknowledged, they often deflect?  They might say, “Oh, that was nothing,” or “That’s what I’m here for.”  These are typical phrases that people push back with. 

It’s important when you’re acknowledging another that they get it and let it in.  So you may have to say it more than once until they do!  
 
Remember, don’t be stingy!  Expand on “Thanks, pal.”  Fully express what you mean from your heart, for example:   

  • “If the world had more people in it like you, it would surely be a better place.”    
  • “You’re an amazing human being and you make a huge difference, and here’s how you did in my life…”   
  • “I’m proud and grateful and honored to call you my friend.”
  • “I’ll never forget what you did for me.”  Acknowledge them for what they did. Then, “It meant everything to me, and I can’t thank you enough.”

Your words of appreciation will make more of a difference to the people in your life than you could ever imagine.  And if you’re ready to have an amazing experience making an even bigger ripple in the world, click HERE or go to http://igniteyourlifebook.com/21daychallenge to take the FREE 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World” Challenge.  Sign up TODAY!  You’re going to love it!

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf

The Queen of Having It All
Author of Ignite Your Life! How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com

Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

P.S.  Andrea would love to hear from you!  Use the form below to send in your comment or question.

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