We started the relationship series with “Where Do Relationship Problems Start?  Pt.1 which covered the first five most common causes of relationship problems.

Relationship QuestionsLet’s now focus on the solutions.

As you’ve probably experienced, it’s all too easy to slip into problems, but how to get yourself out of them is the challenge.

In fact, the burning question is: Is it even possible?!”

The answer is: YES! it’s always possible to solve relationship problems—even if they’ve been going on for some time!

Yes, always, so long as certain key elements are at play:

  • You let go of needing to be right.
  • You’re seeking to resolve and not blame.
  • You focus on your partner.
  • You seek to create understanding.
  • You come from love.
  • You’re clear what your intention is.
  • You know your ideal desired outcome.

Here are the first fiverelationship problems and how to solve them:

1. Poor Communication

This is one of the most common sources of relationship problems. How to solve it is to focus on the other person  Genuinely seek to understand how to best communicate with them—how they are best able to hear you.  Let go of the idea, “This is just who I am and how I communicate”— in other words, take it or leave it!  Focus on the other and communicate with them in a way that really works for them.

Remember three important tips:

  • Make it safe so that both of you feel you can talk about anything.
  • Manage your emotions so that you’re not just reacting.
  • Communicate with and not at them.

2. Not Paying Attention/Getting Distracted

This is one of the easiest to solve.  Very simply, notice the things that you’re doing that are causing the two of you to be disconnected.  Turn off the TV.  Close your laptop.  Come out of your office, if you have an office at home.  Spend time together. Actually show your partner that they are IMPORTANT!

This could be as simple as sitting together, holding hands, and chatting with each other.

Make time for your partner—your special one on one time.  Clearly prioritize them so that they get that you’re reaching out to connect in new and meaningful ways.

3. Being Oblivious

Being oblivious definitely does not bring you closer together with your partner.  In fact, quite the opposite. To solve being oblivious is really quite simple. All you need to do is WAKE UP!  BE CONSCIOUS!  FOCUS! It’s impossible to tell your significant other that they are number one in your life, then go brain dead on them and barely notice them!

So PAY ATTENTION! Make sure that your words and actions are in alignment – say what you mean and mean what you say.  Be interested in your partner, and really show up.  Be there for them in every way.

4. Being Indifferent

If you or your partner are indifferent, there has probably been a long, slow build-up where you have gradually shut down.  It usually doesn’t happen overnight.

To reverse this downward spiral just takes one of you not giving up.  Take a stand for the relationship.  Remind your partner how much you love and care about each other.

Don’t wait for the other person to initiate.  Take the first step and initiate the reconnection.  Breathe life back into your relationship.  Re-ignite the passion between you simply by taking the lead.

5. Taking the Other For Granted/ignoring Each Other

This one is the biggest trap.  Have you noticed how busy you get?  And it’s all too easy to take the one for granted who ironically you say is the most important in your life. All it takes is to start appreciating them. Notice what’s great about them. And not only notice it, but tell them!

Pay attention to the small moments in your relationship. Savor them, because life really does happen in those small moments. Make them matter.  Make your relationship more amazing than it’s ever been before. Surprise your partner.  You’ll be amazed!  Once you do this, THEY will start surprising YOU  – because that’s exactly what happens. It’s reciprocal.

How can you solve relationship problems?

Here’s how:

  • Understand how to best communicate with your partner.
  • Spend time together. Show your partner that they’re important.
  • Treat the other as if they’re special.
  • Be attentive, be interested.
  • Initiate, take action.
  • Surprise your partner.  Amaze and dazzle them.

Start TODAY and integrate these five key elements into your relationship – and WATCH WHAT HAPPENS! When you’re vibrantly alive and proactively causing and creating your relationship, ANYTHING IS POSSBLE..!

Are you ready for more in your relationship with your significant other?  Are you ready to find more meaning and happiness?  It all starts with YOU.  Focus on creating a truly wonderful life, and see how your relationship problems dissolve into thin air.  

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Ignite Your Life! is a simple step-by-step system that will create a profound shift in your life and will bring about the success, abundance and joy that you’ve always dreamed of!  When you apply this system to each area of your life, you’ll create the Juicy Life and Business of Your Dreams!

To your magnificence!

Andrea Woolf

‘The Queen of Having It All
Author of Ignite Your Life! How To Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be
Founder of IgniteYourLifeBOOK.com

Co-founder of WakeUpAbundant.com
Ambassador of Manifest Money, HowtoLiveonPurpose.com

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